Marley Liss was raped. That's the word she wants to use. It is now working to change the subject of sexual violence
"I think it's very important to stop doing all that taboo," she said. "It plays such a role in keeping the victims silent."
Marley had broken her silence and turned it into a book and a movement. But before we get to the way that she changes the lives of other people, let' s talk about how the stranger is upside down
In August 2016, a few weeks before returning to his Social Work in Ryerson, Marley left in Toronto with her team
The plan was broken into her friend's place, but they were drinking, and eventually dispersed
The stranger at the bar approached Marley and offered to help her find her friends. It's bad luck. He lived in the same apartment as a friend, and offered to share a cab
"I just wanted to come home," she said
When they arrived, Marley could not remember the number of her friend, and she did not answer the phone. "I felt drunk when I was near him," she said. "I didn' t know what to do."
"For 30 seconds, he lowered my pants and started touching me."
The guy Marley thinks at his age of 20, said he could hang out in his apartment while she finds out. She laid the bed down and went into the room with a glass of water
"For 30 seconds, he lowered my pants and started touching me." She says he has repeatedly told him to stop, but he's not
"I've just been beaten," said Marley, and her voice falloed."All the time he apologized," she said. "I'm sorry." I'm so sorry. It's so fucked up. "
She remembers seeing him walking around the room with a very intense internal struggle
But he didn' t stop. He continued to use it for several hours
He came out of the room and came back with a condom. Then he started using the penetration
"He finished and went to the toilet for a while, and I was still frozen," Marley said
Later, she ran into reality, grabbed her and ran out. She put her shoes in the elevator and took a cab home
After a couple of very deep breathings, Marley told her neighbor what happened. The two went to the hospital to get a rape kit and reported the incident to the police
The next time Marley saw this guy in court, it was weeks ago. The thing is, the case goes on
"I obviously knew that rape would have a huge impact on the person, but I didn' t know how much it was possible," she said. "I became very, very depressed and I felt that all my views were broken."
Now, a 23-year-old student Ruson is using his pain to change the conversation about sexual violence and help others to heal
" After that, I didn' t know what to do with myself. The normal feeling was very strange, and I just started writing for myself to process things and to plug in. "
And she didn' t put the pen down
"This has become a very important therapy for me and has allowed me to accept all these destructive thoughts and turn them into creation."
After a while, she took the courage to share her raw and painful daily records with her mother
" I was just empty, and it was very difficult. I thought there was this vacuum, and I was alone in this, " she said. "And then I realized that if I shared a writing with her, it could be a translator, like this bridge for us, so that she could see where I was."
After she witnessed her writing, she shared it with her sister and several close friends
"My words have provoked a response from people for various reasons," she said. "They come from my experience of sexual assault, but they touch the painful results of the object culture."
Mental health, body image, and accused victims are topics that have come to the surface for readers
Marley's connected to the editor and started the manuscript. The feedback was taken by the doctor
"My words enabled her to remember her own repressed experience of sexual trauma, and she was extremely appreciative and helped her to understand herself."
In November, Marley turned the magazine into a book called
"At the time when I was really depressed and going to suicidal tendencies, this book became my child, and I was so devoted to share it and get it into the world," she recalls. "I just felt it was so important to my healing."
Poems, vulnerable thoughts, and meaningful questions, written a few hours after the incident filled the pages and the purpose of which is to heal the healing
Her book was transformed into "Re-Humanize Movement." Marley is organizing dance, yoga, and outreach events to take advantage of them
As in the book, Marley says the "#MeToo" movement is hard to find
"I feel like we've been through sexual harassment and violence under the carpet for centuries, and now we're finally looking under the carpet, and there's a huge mess out there."
She says the movement of #Meo is like yelling, "Hey, everybody, look at this mess!" through a giant megaphone
She thinks it's our chance to really clean up this mess right now
"I think what's really important is" What's next? "" A lot of people are looking at this mess. "The men who are identified are facing difficulties with a great sense of guilt and personality crisis, and what role they play in the culture of the object culture."
"It is important to remember that there is no cure," Marley said. "You must do what you like and know that history matters."She speaks of the grief and injustice that survivors can teach others about trauma and "teach our collective culture", even if it makes people uncomfortable.
"I never apologize for using your voice if that's what you've decided to do."
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Laura DaSilva is a resident issue of the SLN. She specializes in singing very loudly in her room, painting decent strokes, and finding interesting people who do interesting things. She's also a little obsessed with Michael Jackson